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Pillar by pillar
The model: 3 As + 5 Rs
Inspired by French sexologist Thérèse Hargot: three dimensions to love, five habits to last.
The 3 As: what draws us together
- AdmirationAdmiring your partner’s intelligence, values and way of being in the world.
- AttractionDesire, chemistry, the pleasure of touch, in whatever form suits you.
- AffectionTenderness, empathy and everyday care for each other.
The 5 Rs: what keeps us going
- ReassuranceBeing reliable, consistent in your love, present when your partner has doubts.
- RespectTruly listening, honouring boundaries, deciding together.
- LaughterHumour, play and lightness that remind you you’re on the same team.
- DreamImagining a future together and supporting each other’s ambitions.
- RadianceGrowing through the relationship rather than shrinking in it.
This quiz is a resource for reflection, not medical or therapeutic advice. If your relationship is causing you pain, a couples therapist or sex therapist can help. If you experience violence, contact local emergency services or a domestic abuse helpline.